The good and the bad about support groups

I love love love having different communities of women to go to about this crazy IVF journey. It’s really nice to be able to talk to others that are in the middle of the same process that you are. I have an amazing support system of family and friends as well but sometimes you just need to talk about the IVF process in depth- which can be hard to discuss with someone who isn’t going through it.

Up until now I’ve been pretty damn positive throughout this process. I’d see others’ success stories and feel excited and happy for them, and don’t get me wrong, I still am, but there is a new element that I did not expect to happen. I’m so so sad sometimes. Ladies who transferred around the same time I did are posting their beta numbers, and they are pregnant. I’m happy for them, but I’m sad too. It’s taking me a little longer than I expected to get over this failed transfer.

Support, a place to ask questions and read others experiences, and a place to share your triumphs. SO good. The bad? If your transfer failed, seeing some beta numbers can make you really fuckin’ sad.

I wish I could take a mental health day. Soldiering on..

2 thoughts on “The good and the bad about support groups

  1. AKL says:

    Yeah sorry, I think I’m one of those not helping. I know exactly what you mean and it’s totally normal to hate those people (me included). I hate them too. But really what we all hate is that we are having to go through all this bullshit for no real guarantee at the end. If you knew that eventually you were getting a baby out of this it might be easier to take the knock-backs along the way. I think it is the not knowing how your story will turn out and the fear that it won’t turn out like you want to. xxx

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  2. ourfrigginivfjourney says:

    No no, do not apologize! I do not feel any hatred for anyone. In the FB groups I’m in several ladies are getting positive betas, they transferred the same day I did or a day before or after. I’m sad I can’t join in their happiness with my own positive beta, but I am happy for them!

    Enjoy your pregnancy and I’ll be cheering for you, as well as those other ladies! I’m just sad and depressed today. xo

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